On Forgiveness

Forgiveness was the topic in a recent adult Sunday school class at my church. We discussed several examples of publically proclaimed forgiveness as the Amish community forgiving the surviving family of the person whose murder-suicide spree at a local school shocked the community. My hallmark act of forgiveness was watching Pope John Paul II visit the imprisoned person who shot him, and then grant him forgiveness.

The reconciliation period for South Africans after years of Apartheid was a monumental cultural event involving forgiveness. As Lutherans, we also aware of our own denomination recently seeking forgiveness from the Mennonites/Anabaptists for the persecution Lutherans did to them hundreds of years ago during the Reformation period.

Through the words of the Lord’s Prayer – “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us” – we ask God for forgiveness to receive forgiveness and to forgive others. Yet, how often in our life do we ask forgiveness from someone? How often do we go out of our way to grant someone forgiveness for something that deeply hurt us? How often do we receive forgiveness from someone for something we did?

If our group is an indication, events of forgiveness do not common occurrences – even though our doctrine is very clear: As a corollary to God’s forgiveness, ELCA Lutherans believe that all Christians have been given the responsibility of forgiving another’s sins against them (Matthew 6:14, Mark 11:25, Luke 17:3ff).

I think of a person with whom I’ve had limited discussions. On our first meeting (and to my surprise) he told me his story of the hateful burden brought upon him by someone close. Months passed, and then I heard the same story in our second encounter. Later it hit me – the only way he can free himself of the baggage he carries is by forgiving the person who deeply hurt him. Unfortunately, our paths have not crossed in some time because I need to say that he is in command of his own heeling.

Today’s culture has its share of attitudes as “in your face” and “don’t get mad, get even.” Many glorify the behaviors demonstrated on reality shows. The instant nature of today electronic media also has a tendency to promote bitterness, grudges, lawsuits, resentment, and mistrust. Our political climate is a story in itself.

Through the current war in Afghanistan, regular threats from Al-Qaeda, and numerous other topics involving Muslims, the events of 9-11 remain with us every day. Is it not our Christian obligation to initiate reconciliation? As Christians, should we be the ones to say to Muslims, “We forgive all Muslims for the inhumane acts caused by a few Islamic terrorists.”

Tenth Avenue North’s Healing Begins

18 thoughts on “On Forgiveness

  1. Well written, “Afrankangle”. May we all find the courage, decency and faith to forgive others as we ourselves wished to be forgiven. Have a good/blessed week.


  2. Thanks for sharing the Fetzer Institute findings. Given the high percentage of people listed who value/appreciate the concept of forgiveness, it was interesting how many of them would only do so conditionally. An interesting study indeed, Frank, and certainly some key factors to consider when weighing why an act of forgiveness isn’t necessarily as easy as writing one’s name. An excellent post–back next week to lurk and learn some more. Cheers


    • Al,
      Good observation as you hit the rub – whereas most people see forgiveness with a condition, I just don’t see God with as many conditions as we have when dealing with one another. Thanks for commenting.


  3. as we continue to struggle in this area, learning to truly forgive, the progress towards world peace slows down as well. perhaps it is too big of a dream to think world peace as possible. thanks for sharing this, Frank. ♥


    • Sunshine,
      Thanks for coming over on this one. Forgiveness is difficult, and (in my opinion) granting it is much more difficult than asking for it. As I wrote here, I keep thinking of the wonderful example set forth by Pope John-Paul II … but there are other examples to follow.


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  5. I spent the first 59 years of my life carrying around almost 59 lbs of bitter resentments/unforgiveness. I just didn’t get it–and then in Mar 2011, I had an “epiphany” during Easter week. WOW–forgiving others is freeing, makes your steps lighter (‘course I still have pounds of fat to lose, but that’s a separate issue….). Today, if I know I’ve said something stupid or hurtful, the sooner I can ask the person to forgive me, the better I feel–I’ve never had someone say “no”. And I work harder, “quicker”, at forgiving the offenses of others–because they likely won’t know they’ve hurt me, and ask; and because I don’t want to accumulate a new umpteen years worth of resentments. God bless you–great blog!


  6. Events of forgiveness are powerful and freeing to everyone involved. Once understanding and healing begin, we become better versions of ourselves. Collectively, we achieve moral progress. Thanks for the thought-provoking post and discussion, Frank!


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