On Respect

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On 2nd October I did a post On Respect, one that I featured a 5-minute speech by a USAF Lt. General. Reactions to the post were positive in many ways with several comments mentioning that respect starts at the top.

Yes – respect starts at the top of each family teaching others the meaning of respect while modeling respectful behaviors.

Yes – respect starts at the top in every school classroom with its teacher leading the way.

Yes – respect starts at the top in every school building with its principal dealing with the staff and students.

Yes – respect starts at the top in every school district with top leadership in their dealing with the district staff and the community it serves.

Yes – respect starts at the top of every group, department, section, division, and headquarter of every corporation across the world.

Yes – respect starts at the top of every customer service organization as it deals with the public it serves.

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Yes – respect starts at the top of every local, state, and national government entity on how it deals with its constituents and opponents.

Yes – respects at the top, and President Trump displays more disrespect than any American leader in my lifetime. He’s a pathetic role model, but he is not a reason to disrespect nor he is the cause of disrespect.

Yes – respect starts at the top for individuals in every human encounter regardless of background, position, gender, ethnicity, age, religion, skin color, and more.

Yes – respect starts at the top when one says Respect your elders – but that doesn’t give the elders the right to disrespect – nor does elder status command automatic respect.

Yes – respect starts at the top of every human encounter – but “the customer is always right” doesn’t mean the customer can be disrespectful to customer service employees.

Yes – respect starts at the top – but there are many tops, and each of us are top in many situations.

Yes – respect starts at the top – and each of us are at the top – Respect starts with yourself, then one can respect others.

Yes – respect start at the top of each individual – in the head containing a brain – the center of all choices each person makes in personal and cyber encounters.

A person is a person – no matter how small. (Dr. Seuss)

On Player Character

Character: the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual;  a feature used to separate distinguishable things into categories
Merriam-Webster

Character is an interesting word, and a word we associated with people in both positive and negative contexts. In terms of the negative and in the light of the recent NFL draft, players with character issue can mean a host of issues:

  • Encounters with the police
  • Drug issues
  • Lack of coachability
  • Uneven effort
  • Self centered over team oriented
  • Conflict with coaches and/or team members
  • Lack of commitment to the classroom
  • Failure to stay in shape

If just losing isn’t enough, living in Cincinnati and dealing with Bengal-player issues in the past hasn’t been easy. Unfortunately, once a negative light shines, any misstep is magnified – regardless of the direction one is moving.

For instance, let’s take the words of Yahoo! Sports Writer Chris Chase:

(Opening line) At some point, you’d think the Cincinnati Bengals would try to distance itself from the lawless, freewheeling image the team has developed over the past decade.

(A few sentences later) First, they draft a veritable who’s-who of character problems last weekend.

To people like Chris Chase, “character issues” not only includes everything I’ve listed (and then some), but each item is of equal weight. Granted (and in my view regretfully) the Bengals one player of 11) with a police record. However, since I find Chris Chase’s words and descriptions as inaccurate and irresponsible, I simply question his character and integrity with the same broad definition he imposes on others.

I not only invite you to read his story, but to also see the comments; which include several by Bengals QB Carson Palmer.

On Humanity and Humility

Each day of human life is filled with many things, both good and bad; mountains and mole hills, triumphs and tragedies; joys and sorrows.

Blogs are an interesting place not only to learn about topics, events, views, and opinions, it’s also a place to see how all of us get caught up in our own micro-world of life perspectives. After all, we know so little while there is so much to learn.

Humanity offers many different characters, some are good while others bad; some with who we agree while disagreement reigns with others; some who we respect, yet we despise others; some to who we go the extra mile to approach, yet others we intentionally ignore; let alone the haves and the have nots.

On the other hand, humility recognizes both our own faults and encourages us to accept others. A call to accept those who are different, the ones with whom we disagree, despise, and see as different.

So there we have it – two human fundamentals, humanity and humility, in both cooperation and conflict with each other – every day in each of us – but at different degrees within each of us.

To me, this 3-minute Carl Sagan perspective is both timeless and powerful. In this I hear so much about humanity, yet I feel humility as it humbles and overwhelms me. Numerous versions of this video exist, but this one allows each of us to form our own applicable images to accompany our thoughts.

Enjoy and blessings to all.